Hooking Up: The Costly Price of Cheap Sex

I read a very surprising article in the Intercollegiate Review that I think our readers should check out. Entitled “Why Hooking Up is Letting You Down,” the article outlined the vast and deleterious consequences of hooking up: from disease to broken families to feelings of meaninglessness to self-destruction. And the article recommended, of all things, traditional morality as the cure for our generation’s sexual letdown. Put in simple terms: free love isn’t free, and cheap sex is costly.

It is interesting to note that the author attempts to reach his conclusions through evidence and reason, rather than a transcendental moral appeal. Though his conclusion is moral, and even religious, his premises are generally non-religious. After running the course of the (at least) five decade long sexual liberation, our generation has reached the point of sexual burn out:

This isn’t what my generation expected when it invented the sexual revolution. The game isn’t fun anymore. Even some of the diehard proponents of that enslaving liberation have begun to show signs of fatigue and confusion.

Sex, in and for itself, has proven to be meaningless. And why do we even wonder at it? The sexual revolutionaries told us that sex was just a natural function, an appetite that could be filled more easily with the value-meal hamburger of hooking up. And then we wonder why our McSexed culture can’t achieve intimacy, loyalty, faithfulness, and satisfaction. The conclusion to the article says it all:

We want to pick and choose among the elements of our sexual design, enjoying just the pieces that we want and not the others. Some people pick and choose one element, others pick and choose another, but they share the illusion that they can pick and choose. Sometimes such picking and choosing is called “having it all.” That is precisely what it isn’t. A more apt description would be refusing it all—insisting on having just a part—and in the end, not even getting that.


These meanings, purposes, and principles are the real reason for the commands and prohibitions contained in traditional sexual morality. Honor your parents. Care for your children. Save sex for marriage. Make marriage fruitful. Be faithful to your spouse.


Let the sexual revolution bury the sexual revolution. Having finished revolving, we arrive back where we started. What your mother—no, what your grandmother—no, what your great grandmother—told you was right all along. These are the natural laws of sex.