Conversation With My Leftist Cousin On Gay Marriage

My only cousin, Natalie, is 23 years old, two years younger than I. She grew up in a very dysfunctional situation—parents were divorced, her short-tempered, atheistic, Ralph Nader-voting father was in denial that he was bipolar, and her mother, whom my cousin visited every other weekend, was an alcoholic living with various boyfriends at different times.

In her mid- and late-teen years a judge ruled Natalie’s parents unfit to live with, so she lived with her godmother (my mom’s cousin), a leftist who was the type of person who would call herself “spiritual” and meditated in a tea house on her property. Total hippie, but fun and kind.

A few days ago I got reacquainted with Natalie through Facebook. I hadn’t spoken with her for six or seven years before that. It became apparent in our brief conversation on Facebook that being raised by such people as she was raised by really warped her thinking.

I posted on my own Facebook page a link to a story about the federal government declaring it will recognize same-sex marriage in Utah despite that state’s governor saying Utah would not. I posted the link with my own remark about states’ rights.

My cousin Natalie saw this and commented with that old canard, “People who disagree with same-sex marriages are just afraid of change….ya know marrying an African American used to be illegal?! Grow up states that’s what I say” [sic].

For all the qualms I have with certain sections of the Constitution (I can say that because I’m a reactionary), the Constitution is still the law of the land. Until the Constitution is replaced, it must be adhered to by the government. If a state wants to outlaw same-sex marriage, it is allowed to, according to the Tenth Amendment.

What frustrates me is Natalie’s remark to “grow up.” It’s standard for the left to say that we who are opposed to same-sex marriage are living in a bygone era, but “grow up”? What, by making decisions based on emotion? Growing up would entail acknowledging that this is a country of laws. In trampling over Utah’s sovereignty, the Justice Department is breaking those laws.

Natalie also invoked the left’s standard appeal to modernism: “If you oppose same-sex marriage, you’re afraid of change.”

Change? What does change have to do with it? Is all change necessarily good? We should let men marry men and women marry women because it’s a change? We’re going to toss away a millenia-old institution because of the recent whims of the 1960s drug-addled sexual deviants who now run this country? Because, “Hey, it’s a change”? Five-person incestuous marriage is a change too, but I don’t see LGBT activists clamoring for legitimization of it.

Natalie and I had only been friends on Facebook for 24 hours before this conversation occurred. Her actions being governed by emotions, she blocked me immediately after.

I guess I’m doing something right.